In case I never said Thank You…

As school started this year, as did the flood of peanut related posts on facebook and the sort. Bloggers gathered defenses and armed themselves with angry parents to defend their rights to peanuts anytime anywhere! I read post upon post, article upon article of people claiming they have been violated in the rights department because PB&J can’t tag along to school. I have sat jaw-dropped at some comments like, “Why do the rest of the kids have to suffer due to a small percentage of peanut allergic kids.” and “No normal, healthy child should ever have to lower their bar of standards to accommodate another child’s inability to meet a ‘basic set bar of expectation.”

So basically, some of these people are saying Peanut allergic children are weaker humans and should be locked away from society if it causes even the slightest inconvenience for a small portion of the day to other “normal” children. And some aren’t quite as angry, but still annoyed at little. I get it. Just getting homework done for school is a feat in itself. Now you have to alter your lunch life as well.

Let’s throw it out there. I had no idea about food allergies before my daughter was diagnosed. I was so overwhelmed and anxious when I found out that I was up all hours of the night researching for months and months. What does this mean? What did I do wrong when I was pregnant? How did this happen!? What do I do now? But I’m not here to get into that now.

I was also very tempted to post my rebuttal list to all these maddening articles I’ve been reading. But I decided that was already taken care of by a lot of other allergy kid parents. I decided that what needed to be done at this time was to point out all the people in my life that have not shunned us for the annoyance of having us around. To all the people who have no problem going out of their way to keep our daughter safe. I may not thank them enough because it really truly means so much!

To my family! THANK YOU! Every family party I go to, my mom or my sister check with me so they can make something special for my daughter to eat. My father-in-law (Poppy) buys ingredients she can have so that he can make her a special batch of rice krispie treats. My sister always has a safe brand of ice cream handy when we have parties so she won’t feel left out. My sister-in-law and brother-in-law buy her a GIANT bag of Yummy organic lolli’s every year so she always has travel snacks. Thank you to my Aunts and Uncles who avoid putting out bowls of nuts on holidays! Thank you for all the seperate bags! For all the questions! They don’t have to, but they do.

To my friends! THANK YOU! When they have birthday parties for their own kids, they make sure nothing is made with peanuts and they make sure her goodie bag is filled with treats she can actually have. It’s enough to plan a party, but to have to take time to account for my daughter on top of all of it. It’s a lot to just even remember to do that. And they invite us again, instead of telling us to stay home because it’s too much of an inconvenience to the other kids to have my daughter there. Thank you to friends in different states who’ve invited us for weekends and made sure their homes were safe. Thank you to those who even went as far as to whip up a special batch of dairy, egg, and nut free brownies! And again, I don’t expect it, but they do it.

Even at church and small group, THANK YOU! They always check with me when they aren’t sure of something. I have a dear friend who always has something safe for my daughter to eat when we go to her house. THANK YOU!

To every restaurant that ever made her a special meal that required pots and pans to be washed or fries made seperate… or grills to be cleaned in order to prevent cross-contamination. THANK YOU! To all the pizza places that make her special pizzas! To every chef that comes to the table to make sure he knows just what foods can’t come in contact with hers. To every waitor or waitress that takes the time to make sure everything is safe or is just honest that it’s probably better she eat the food in her lunch box instead. Even to the people who take my phone calls ahead of time checking if there are is a peanut free cooking area because peanut and peanut oil is not as containable as the other allergens. THANK YOU! Nobody likes to be that person at a restaurant… that person that asks a million questions when the place is hopping. So sincerely, THANK YOU!

THANK YOU to her former pre-school for checking with me on everything from facepaint to detergent!

And there are many more people that I’m probably leaving out..

But at the end of the day, this is my problem. It’s my husband’s problem. It’s my daughter’s problem. It doesn’t have to be my family or friends problem. But they make it theirs because they love us. They wait till we leave to bust out the Reese’s on Halloween. They wash their hands and faces frequently just in case. Just like we would accommodate them if it meant keeping them in our lives. They understand what community is and what it’s like to look out for one another.

I’m not thanking them because this all makes my life easier (it does), I’m thanking them because they care enough to do it without being asked. And I don’t have all the answers. Because you can’t find them. There are so many theories to why the percentage of kids with food allergies has grown so much. You don’t know what kind of reaction your kid will have. This time it could be a rash, next time a swollen throat. Kids have died from allergies that were thought to be “mild.” So the only way to be 100% safe is total avoidance. And there’s no way to do that completely. And I’m sure if there was even a .01% chance something could kill your kid, you’d sure as heck avoid it!

So again, THANK YOU TO EVERYONE who was even thought to look out for my daughter’s well being. To everyone who makes her feel included and cared for! You can’t know how much it means to us! We love you!!!


x-posted to The nut free home school


Halloween Spread

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And the follow-up scrap layout of the Halloween pics!
I only really had a handful of pics due to the whole… darkness and rain… stuff goin’ on. And I didn’t get to see the family as much as usual so I didn’t get my goofy nephew pics.

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But I’m glad I thought to take some pics around our block before it rained…

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I’m enjoying another bowl of mashed potatoes as I type this… I had a sandwich in the car… but I was hungry again when I got home… and luckily Daryl didn’t eat all the mashed potatoes.

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And here’s the making of the 12×12. The other side is PL style…


Halloween Costume Re-cap

So I have to say Eleanor is pretty good about sticking to her Halloween costume plan…   This is the second time she decided on what to be almost a year before and hasn’t changed her mind.  So I kinda feel like that’s huge when it comes to making costumes.  I mean, what would happen if your kid decides to be a squashbutter ninja and then you go to the trouble of making the perfect  costume, and then they won’t wear it because they changed their mind and now want to be a Stripey fruit ninja!  If that was the case I probably wouldn’t have bothered with making costumes at all.. or I would …and I’d just have a lot more.

This year it was Sofia the First. If you don’t know who that is, here’s a pic:

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It’s a newer Disney Jr. show… and it meant another purple princess dress! (Last year was Rapunzel) Whoot!

So I’m always disappointed with the Princess dresses in the Disney store. They’re expensive and usually don’t look like the actual dress the princess wears… and to top it off, they always add some cheesey charm on them with the princess’ picture on it. SUPERCHEESE!
Roo wasn’t too impressed with them either because they lacked the “poofiness” that Sofia’s dress clearly has!
It wasn’t in my plan to buy one, but this October was busier than usual and there was a slim chance that I would just plum run out of time when it came to making Roo’s costume this year. I had some other people’s costumes to make, and some photo jobs to take care of, so my free time outside of work was pretty slim. But luckily I was able to make it work. I mean, I was down to the wire and had to forgo a couple last minute details but I at least got to the point where you could say “Ok, this is a Sofia costume no doubt about it!”

I’m not really going to go through a step by step but I at least took a few pics along the way:

I decided right off the bat that I was going to make an “under” dress first for two reasons:
One, I knew I needed a lot of layers of netting and fabric so I could get it poofy enough. Trying to sew all that together and keep it straight would be tricky. And the top purple layer needed to lay right due to the tulip type skirt. And two, I figured she could use it under other dresses that needed extra poof!
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So the skirt with a satin layer inside and the crinoline under-skirt looked like this:

Looked poofy enough to me? It actually looked like it might swallow her whole!

And then I added the white cloth layer on top. I sewed on a strip of light purple ribbon to the bottom edge before I attached it. HW04 (1 of 1)

sry, these photos aren’t the best, but they were like the phone photos I was sending my husband as I was making this because I just thought it was funny looking.

So then I attached the white top and added a zipper in back, and I got this:
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There are a set of fangs in her mouth from an octoberfest phototaking job we did the day before.  She’s not wearing some weird Frankenretainer or anything…

So now I’m thinking I’m well on my way… well as the Halloween week days were closing, I realized this dress had so much more going on than I really thought through! But regardless, I got this far, I wasn’t turning back! Who doesn’t love a challenge!

So I’ve got this big poofy white under dress thing but I just need to take up the top a little.
Roo decides she wants to paint. So I’m like, ok sure because I never really say no to any arts and crafts. I take off her dress, get her set up with paint and an easel…
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I call her back in the sewing room to try on the dress again so I can check the length of the top… It’s good. She starts dancing around again and before I know it, she decides to crawl under the paint easel (coz kids like to crawl under stuff) and I’m starting to freak cos she’s close to her paints. Well she didn’t touch the paint, but she did get some paint on the floor… which she’s now swept her white enveloped self through. The bottom edge of this white angel dress is now coated in blue paint. And not only that, but there are three random blue paint spots higher up on the outside skirt. Just when I think I’m going to lose it, I remember this spot remover I bought at Hobby Lobby that they sell right on the fabric cutting counter. I remember I picked it up and asked the lady cutting my fabric if it worked. She said she didn’t know firsthand, but that everyone she’s known to try it has only had good things to report. So it’s $3.99, I buy it. And as I’m throwing it in the cart I’m thinking in my head that I’m probably going to end up with a reason to use this. Well thank god I got it because boy did I ever need it and boy if it didn’t take that paint out like a champ then I don’t even know my own name. ( wait…) Or on the flip side, this all might not have happened if I hadn’t bought it at all.
The point is, if you see this:

you better just buy it. You just never know when you’ll really need it.

So Grandma’s secret spot remover saved the day!!

Ok, story over. Back to the dress:

Now for the fun part! Starting the purple dress! For the top, I needed two shades of purple and some kind of dark purple trim to divide the two colors and add that little twist at the torso. I had this satiny fabric in a lighter purple which was annoying but I used it anyway coz I had it on hand. I ended up doubling the lighter fabric so I wouldn’t have to hem or turn under the edge when I was going to put the dark purple trim. I got this tiny dark purple ribbon and just sewed it on the folded side of the satiny light colored fabric with a matching thread.

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Then I just added simple sleeves, nothin’ fancy.

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After thinking about it, I decided the best way to put the skirt together was to just cut four big ovals flat on top and sew them together from the middle up. I didn’t want any seams going through the white applique design.

So that seemed to work out well. I pinned them together and laid them over the white dress and adjusted the shape until I was happy with how they looked. Once I was satisfied, I sewed them together loosely and started making the appliques.

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The applique was made with the leftover white thick satin material I made the innermost layer of the white dress with. I ironed on the fusable interfacing, and started cutting out the shapes. These also weren’t cut with any precision or measurements. I just kinda cut one tear drop shape, placed it on and cut it down until it looked right, and then make 15 more. And so on with the other shape. After I did that, I ironed them on and then sewed around each shape with a white tight zig zag.

So here I’m thinking that I’m really almost done! I haven’t attached the skirt yet because I still have to decide on how to add that scooping of beads on top.
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Even though in Sofia’s dress, it really doesn’t look like there’s an extra layer of fabric on top of the tulip skirt, I made the choice to add one. I just kinda thought it would look better than just sewing a string of beads in a scoopy shape on either side. So here’s where we’re at now without having actually sewed on the beads just yet. They’re kinda just pinned up for now.
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Now this is where I ran out of time. These beads were supposed to also trim the big purple tulip skirt…and the neckline but since they had to be hand sewn, I only had time to trim the extra layer and the top. I mean, I guess I could still add em’ now if I wanted but I think it actually looked good enough as it was. It was getting busy already and it was pretty darn close to looking almost exactly like Sofia’s dress.


So after sewing on the beads the night before Halloween, I’m pretty convinced that’s the last I’m going to do for this dress instead of losing another hour of sleep. I’m definitely happy with how it turned out… and Eleanor (roo) is thrilled with it but slightly disappointed that I never got around to making Norma a dress… or myself for that matter so we could be the mom and step-sister. Perhaps I can make up for it at Christmas with matching elf outfits for the three of us.

So here’s what went out on Halloween!

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She’s already put in her order for a “Shake it Santa” dress but “bigger” for Christmas. I’m trying to talk her out of it so we can make something different… but we’ll see. Maybe the girls from the Shake it up show will have something new on that she’ll like. So I’ve pretty much come to the conclusion that I’ve become her dress making slave, but honestly I’m so happy to be.

Oh, and I can’t leave before I show you one more pic… Kevin was dying to try on the dress, so we all agreed he wore it as well as Eleanor. Points if you can find him!!

Anwyay, so if you have any questions about the making of this dress, feel free to ask! I’m kind of a fly by the seat of my pants sewninja. Ninja seems to be my choice word currently. I’m asked a lot how I sew things without patterns and I’ll just answer that here.
There’s a couple reasons and the first is that there usually isn’t a pattern for the things I want to make. A lot of the dresses I make for my daughter we either make up, or she sees on TV so I honestly think it’s a waste of time to look for a pattern because it probably won’t fit them exactly, and it will probably won’t even look like the dress anyway… like the disney store dresses! I can’t say this is true 100% of the time, because the first time I looked for a pattern for a particular dress was the last time… and that was a while ago. But it’s probably a safe bet. And the second is that I’m just not that used to reading patterns. I never took home economics. I was never taught how to read a pattern. I’m not saying I never bought a pattern… I have. I did make a purse from a pattern and some other things along the way… but for the most part, I would end up changing the pattern anyway. The fun of sewing for me is making up something new… or being challenged to make something from a character or picture and seeing how close I can get. It’s like those logic puzzles in those puzzle magazines I used to get in my Easter Basket: Identify the pieces. Figure out where they need to go. Decide which order they need to be attached. And I’ve taken out many stitches this way, but it’s all for the fun of it!

I started sewing after my daughter was born… and it started with stuffed animals and bunting. The first dress I made her was for the 4th of July and she was already close to 2 years old. And the way I did was by taking clothes that I knew fit her well and using them as a guide. I just kinda mentally un-did the seams and pictured what they would look like flattened out. And now a days I just kinda put a piece of scrap paper on her back and mark her shoulders and whatever that way… once you have the basic shape, you can adjust it to almost any type of clothing. Honestly, I think trial and error over a few years has taught me the most about sewing. I still want to take some classes, but everytime I sign up for one at the community school, it gets canceled for under enrollment. Maybe I’ll start my own…

Anyway, sorry for the long post!!!

Stay tuned for a Scrapbook layout using these Halloween pics!